Why do we let the uncontrollables control us? « Insp1re – Your source for Motivational, Inspirational Videos and online guides
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I read somewhere once that 92 per cent of the things people worry about are things that are actually out of our control…where’s the sense in that?

Sometimes situations arise that we are unable to control and as I’ve come to realise, the problem is not the thing we cannot control, but our need to try and control it anyway. This causes worry, anxiety and prevents us from actually focusing on the things we can do something about.

I’m certain that the key to living a more positive life, is to make the distinction between the things you can and the things cannot control.

Uncontrollable v Controllable

We cannot control the movement of the stars, or the weather. No matter what we did, there is nothing any of us could do about that.

We, as individuals cannot control our country’s economical position or how much tax the Government will make us pay. We might not like it, but it’s a waste of time holding on to these issues trying to control them.

In the job market, we cannot control how many jobs are available, or whether redundancies are made within a business.

Nobody else can control the way you feel, or how other people feel about you.

These are just a few examples, the list of uncontrollables is endless. But they vary due to interpretation. The key here is to accept it, we can only have control of ourselves.

What we CAN control…

  • Our own thoughts, beliefs and actions
  • The effort we put in
  • The goals we set for ourselves to improve our situation
  • How determined we are
  • How we interpret situations
  • What action we take
  • How we feel about ourselves
  • Whether we think positively or negatively

Whatever the situation, there is a positive way of interpretation. Whatever you’re worried about, make the distinction and take action on what you can actually control.

Some examples:

If you’re worried about losing your job, be the best you can be, work harder and trust that if it comes to it, you did everything you could to keep it. If it comes to it, take action to get a new job. Remember your attitude will determine the outcome.

If you’re worried about your health, eat well, keep fit, cut out alcohol or smoking and take any other necessary action to prevent illness.

If you’re financial situation gets you down, what can you do to improve it? Make cutbacks, save, or explore other ways of making money.

In your personal relationships, be yourself, be positive and trust that you get out of relationships what you put it. Let go of worrying about what others think of you.

The more we focus on what we can control, and let go of the rest, the more power we hold.

Looking for some inspiration?

Watch my interview with inspirational sailor Geoff Holt MBE. Geoff was involved in an accident when he was a teenager which left him paralysed from the neck down. This bought Geoff’s dream of being a professional sailor, to an end. Yet, some 20 years later, he returned to his beloved sport to become the first disabled sailor to sail around the British Isles single handed. Geoff has since completed various other voyages and continues to be an inspiration.

Geoff cannot control the fact that he became disabled, but he chose to take action on what he could control and made his dream come true. Geoff’s story will truly inspire you.

Click here to watch the film.

*The film is part of our Premier Club video library of success stories.

Best wishes,

Cassie.